Updated: Apr 12
Eat fewer calories than you burn. Sounds simple enough, right? Then why is it so darn hard to lose weight?
If you've tried eating healthier and exercise but still find yourself tugging on your belt loops to pull up your jeans and searching desperately through your closet for something that fits, it might not be the food and fitness that's holding you back, it might just be your mindset.
As a Coach, I can tell you that my clients who struggle with the scale do so for a multitude of different reasons, all of which are real and valid, and all of which we can push through with a bit of raised awareness and hard work. You don’t need to stay stuck in the same body that’s been dragging you down for years, frustrated, discouraged, feeling hopeless when you look in the mirror.
It's time to overcome those challenges and unlock the door to a happier and healthier you!
Where to start?
Honestly, weight loss starts in the mind. You cannot and will not lose the weight and keep it off until you're in the right frame of mind to do it. Because in my experience, no one ever bullied themselves thin. When we talk about “willpower” and “focus,” we’re talking about your mental game. And the truth is in order to get your body healthy, you've to get your head healthy too.
What kinds of MENTAL barriers are keeping you from losing the weight?
1. Poor Body Image: A poor body image has been proven to keep people from fully committing to weight loss. If you don’t feel good about yourself, you are much more likely to give up before you get to your goal. To improve your body image, try focusing on your best quality. Practice impeccable grooming and quality self-care. You do not have to be at goal weight to have a great haircut! Be as kind to yourself as you are to others.
2. Emotional Eating: This one’s a doozy. If you look for food to sustain you in times of trouble, you are going to gain weight. And that weight will be troublesome. And you can bet your booty that will propel you to eat more. To stop emotional eating, you’ve got to find new and better supports. Look for healthy outlets and turn to friends, family, or a professional.
3. Comparing Yourself to Others: Simply put, when you compare yourself to others, you lose. Occasionally, comparisons can boost your ego or motivate you to work harder, but most often, comparisons result in a disastrous assault on your ego, an attack that you instigated. Focus on you. Be selfish. Don’t worry about the other guy. Weight loss is all about YOU.
4. Making Yourself Low Priority: Even the airline will tell you: before you can save someone else, you have to put on your own oxygen mask. You will be better able to do your job, love your family, and be a friend if you take care of you first. Move yourself to the top of your priority list.
5. Lack of Trust: If you don’t believe you can lose the weight, you won’t. Simple as that. You’ll make excuses to skip exercising and eating better. You'll consistently find "reasons" you can't show up for yourself. And you'll talk yourself out of any progress made along the way. Basically, your self-talk and follow through will suck. The saying really rings true: if you believe it, you can achieve it.
It all comes back to self-love.
To blast through your mental barriers, you’ve got to learn to love yourself and that means knowing yourself, seeing yourself as you really are (not what you think you are), and being willing to treat yourself the way you would your best friend or a loved one.
Are you tired of starting over every Monday, struggling with willpower, and hopping from diet to diet, wondering if you'll ever get it right so that you can lose weight, get healthy, fit and feel like you again? Come join me inside my free women-only Facebook Community - Slim & Trim with Coach Mindy. It's for women who are ready to ditch boring diets forever and create sustainable habits for weight loss, enjoying balanced food and fitness, so that they can lose weight, live healthy, and become the best version of themselves!